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Candele per Assange – Candles4Assange @Milan, Italy

giugno 29, 2019

29.06.2019 – Cristina Mirra

Candele per Assange – Candles4Assange @Milan, Italy

3 LUGLIO, ORE 21, MILANO, PIAZZA CASTELLO.

Aderiamo alla mobilitazione internazionale # Candles4Assange contro the war all’informazione e per la Liberazione di Julian Assange.
Milano sarà la 43sima città, l’Italia il 19simo paese ad unirsi a questa campagna.
Partecipare è un atto di riconoscenza nei confronti di chi ha messo a repentaglio la propria vita per garantire il diritto di conoscere la verità.

On The Importance of Pride

giugno 29, 2019

28.06.2019 – Pressenza New York

On The Importance of Pride
First Gay Pride Parade in Boston

By Patricia Smith

June. LGBTQ Pride Month. For years, as a young teacher in Boston, I looked forward to Gay Pride Day (what we called it back then), celebrated in Boston on the first Saturday in June. I went in the early years with my very first girlfriend and I wore, as I saw others had, a paper bag on my head with the word “TEACHER” scrawled on the front. I knew I could get fired if anyone saw me there, if anyone suspected I was gay. I went first to revel in the midst of hundreds of LGBTQ people, of folks who wouldn’t mind if I held my girlfriend’s hand, if we sat in each other’s arms at the festival following the parade. What a comfort to know that at least that many LGBTQ people lived nearby, because growing up in suburban Boston in the 1970’s and ‘80s, I had no clue. I didn’t even have the knowledge that such people existed. Maybe in high school I knew that LGBTQ people existed, but I didn’t know much.

I went to Pride in the following years with my first long-term partner, gathering courage to march in the parade, to be part of the throng of out, proud, LGBTQ people. I marched with fellow members of the Gay and Lesbian Helpline at the Fenway Community Health Center, and I marched with GLSEN, the Gay Lesbian Straight Education Network. For them, I helped carry our banner—“Together, For a Change”—buoyed on with the shouts of the crowd. “Look! Gay teachers!” followed by thunderous applause, smiles, camera flashes. Back then, Pride to me was a sort of Gay Christmas, as much about the celebration as it was about visibility and well, pride. It’s heady stuff to find yourself suddenly with a large tribe when previously you just weren’t sure if there were any other people like you. And then imagine you find yourself with a vibrant, colorful tribe, exuberant in their celebration. Who wouldn’t want to be part?

But this was also the Regan era, the years so many in our communities died from lack of care and attention, the most devastating years of the AIDS crisis before funding and any effective treatments. And then Pride became more than a celebration. It became a way to make our voices heard and our bodies seen. Of course, Pride has always been about making our voices seen and our bodies heard; it was always a way to say “we’re here; we’re queer,” a way to claim the streets just for one day, to demonstrate and revel in our own beauty and strength, to honor and celebrate our lives and, perhaps, with our numbers proclaim our value, to demand attention and insist on our right to exist.

Today, in so many LGBTQ Pride Parades, school groups march. And churches. Employees of big-name corporations. Politicians and families. Straight allies. It’s easy to be cynical about it, all the corporate logos and sponsorships, the not-so-subtle competition for our money and loyalty, all the feel-good rainbows everywhere. But in the throng of now thousands who participate, we can see visible changes to society. We can see more inclusion and acceptance. We can see so many fabulous examples of what it means to be LGBTQ.

But what we can’t see are all the young people who still wonder if there is anyone else like them. We can’t see the harassment, the bullying, the terrorizing that continues—and in many instances has increased—lately. In 2018, EdSource reports that “LGBT young people ages 13-15 are 120 % more likely to become homeless,” even in places like San Francisco, a “gay mecca.” In their 2017 National School Climate Survey, GLSEN reports “fewer positive changes” for LGBTQ youth in schools. The statistics are stark: 98.5 % of LGBTQ youth report hearing gay used in a negative way; 56.6 % report hearing negative comments from teachers and staff. Over half of the LGBTQ students surveyed reported feeling unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation and more than three quarters of LGBTQ students surveyed admitted to avoiding school functions because they felt unsafe or uncomfortable.

The story gets even more grave for trans students. While a little more than half of students surveyed reported hearing anti-gay comments from teachers of staff, the number climbs to 71% who report hearing negative comments from teachers or staff about gender identity or gender expression. From 2013 to 2017, GLSEN reports a “steady increase in negative remarks about transgender people.” Perhaps not surprisingly, students in rural areas, especially in the South, reported the most difficulties in schools and had the fewest resources available to them.

And so—if in a small city nearby—as happened recently in Hendersonville, NC—there is a Pride March or celebration, if there is a visible presence of what it might mean to grow up LGBTQ, if young people can see that it can, indeed, ‘get better,’ that is reason enough to get out there and dance on floats, sing all the songs, march with rainbow stickers. As Harvey Milk said, “You’ve got to give them hope.”


Patricia Smith is the author of the novel The Year of Needy Girls (Kaylie Jones Books, 2017), a Lambda Literary Award finalist. Her nonfiction has appeared most recently in the anthologies Older Queer Voices: The Intimacy of Survival and Nine Lives: A Life in Ten Minutes Anthology as well as Parhelion Literary Magazine, where it was nominated for Best of the Net. Her essay, “Border War,” which appeared in Broad Street Magazine, received a Special Mention by Pushcart. A teacher of American literature and Creative Writing at the Appomattox Regional Governor’s School in Petersburg, VA, she lives in Chester, VA with her partner.

Meeting Minutes

giugno 29, 2019
Meeting Minutes del 29 giugno 2019: shabbat shalom
 
«Io vi punirò secondo il frutto delle vostre azioni», dice il Signore (Geremia 21,14)
 
 
PROBLEM
Got a problem
That needs solved ?
Then ask God
To get involved.
David Herr
 
 
L’approvazione degli altri è uno stimolante, del quale talvolta è bene diffidare.
 
Paul Cezanne
 
*1934 In Germania “notte dei lunghi coltelli”
 
* San Pietro e San Paolo, apostoli
 
*1917 nasce a Prerov Josefv Kainar, drammaturgo, scrittore, poeta e traduttore ceco
 
 
“Molti uomini cercano un orecchio che li ascolti , ma non lo trovano tra i cristiani che talvolta parlano quando dovrebbero ascoltare,
 
Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Imparare a dire no

giugno 29, 2019

Imparare a dire no

Perché a volte siamo incapaci di dire no a una sollecitazione? Il parere della psicologa Anne-Marie Saunal

 in  società

Imparare a dire no

La più grande difficoltà dell’essere umano è di non poter dire no a sollecitazioni che pure non desidera. Le ragioni di questo paradosso sono molteplici.

Obbedienza e sacrificio
La prima va ricercata nell’infanzia. I nostri genitori, la scuola, la chiesa ci hanno insegnato a ubbidire, a dire sì “per il nostro bene”. Questo bene è equiparato a quello della famiglia, della società o della comunità. Dire sì alle sollecitazioni che da lì provengono è manifestare che si appartiene a quella entità, essere tutt’uno con essa e perfino sacrificarsi per essa. Dire no è prendere le distanze, trasgredire la legge simbolica trasmessa dal padre per correre il rischio di essere tagliati fuori, respinti e non essere più amati. È così che a cinquant’anni molti sono ancora incapaci di dire no a una richiesta dei propri genitori.

Imparare a dire no

Immagine e limiti
La seconda ragione della nostra difficoltà a dire no è legata all’immagine che si vuole dare di sé. Opporre un rifiuto a una richiesta significa che non siamo onnipotenti, che abbiamo dei limiti, in termini di tempo e di energia. A volte, quando credono a un ideale, religioso o no, donne e uomini si costruiscono personaggi sempre disponibili per gli altri, al punto di dimenticare di prendersi cura di sé. Dire no a una richiesta che serve la causa equivale allora a cadere dal proprio piedistallo di militante devoto. A volte questa totale disponibilità per degli impegni pubblici maschera anche un rifiuto delle sollecitazioni dei parenti stretti, del coniuge o dei figli, necessariamente più discrete. Non saper dire no dissimula quindi a volte un’incapacità di dire sì.

Imparare a dire no

Cura di sé
Eppure la maggior parte delle persone si rammarica di non poter dire no. “Il trauma del primato dell’altro” è una delle molle che glielo impediscono. Consiste, nella cultura giudaico-cristiana, nell’accordare la priorità all’altro senza rispettare sé stessi. Dire sì sforzandosi genera risentimento nei confronti di colui che ci sollecita e altera di conseguenza la relazione. Il principio di fraternità perde allora il suo significato. La seconda parte del comandamento biblico viene dimenticata: “Amerai il prossimo tuo come te stesso”. La cura di sé si cancella davanti all’abnegazione di sé e lo sfinimento incombe.

Imparare a dire no

Nuove opportunità
Aver fatto questa esperienza cocente costituisce un’arma per imparare a non essere più un oggetto a disposizione degli altri. A che serve dire sì se è per arrivare spossati a una riunione e uscirne vuoti? Imparare a chiedere aiuto può anche permettere di dire più facilmente no. Ci apriamo così a un possibile che rimettiamo nelle mani dell’altro. Cessiamo di renderci indispensabili. Condividiamo il tempo, le responsabilità. Sperimentiamo che gli uni hanno bisogno degli altri.

La tensione tra il sì e il no, tra la cura di sé e la cura dell’altro non scompare mai, l’essenziale è riuscire a rendere fecondo questo conflitto

Questa arringa per la cura di sé non è un elogio dell’egoismo – che è la chiusura in sé. La tensione tra il sì e il no, tra la cura di sé e la cura dell’altro non scompare mai, l’essenziale è riuscire a rendere fecondo questo conflitto, cioè scegliere in parole e opere: “Che il vostro sì sia sì, che il vostro no sia no” (Matteo 5,37).

Anne-Marie Saunal

Imparare a dire no

Anne-Marie Saunal è psicologa e psicanalista, tra le sue pubblicazioni: Psy, délivrez-nous du mal! pubblicato dalle Editions de l’Atelier, e Journal d’une psychanalyste heureuse,edito da Payot.

On The Importance of Pride

giugno 29, 2019

 

On The Importance of Pride
28.06.2019 – Pressenza New York

First Gay Pride Parade in Boston
By Patricia Smith
June. LGBTQ Pride Month. For years, as a young teacher in Boston, I looked forward to Gay Pride Day (what we called it back then), celebrated in Boston on the first Saturday in June. I went in the early years with my very first girlfriend and I wore, as I saw others had, a paper bag on my head with the word “TEACHER” scrawled on the front. I knew I could get fired if anyone saw me there, if anyone suspected I was gay. I went first to revel in the midst of hundreds of LGBTQ people, of folks who wouldn’t mind if I held my girlfriend’s hand, if we sat in each other’s arms at the festival following the parade. What a comfort to know that at least that many LGBTQ people lived nearby, because growing up in suburban Boston in the 1970’s and ‘80s, I had no clue. I didn’t even have the knowledge that such people existed. Maybe in high school I knew that LGBTQ people existed, but I didn’t know much.
I went to Pride in the following years with my first long-term partner, gathering courage to march in the parade, to be part of the throng of out, proud, LGBTQ people. I marched with fellow members of the Gay and Lesbian Helpline at the Fenway Community Health Center, and I marched with GLSEN, the Gay Lesbian Straight Education Network. For them, I helped carry our banner—“Together, For a Change”—buoyed on with the shouts of the crowd. “Look! Gay teachers!” followed by thunderous applause, smiles, camera flashes. Back then, Pride to me was a sort of Gay Christmas, as much about the celebration as it was about visibility and well, pride. It’s heady stuff to find yourself suddenly with a large tribe when previously you just weren’t sure if there were any other people like you. And then imagine you find yourself with a vibrant, colorful tribe, exuberant in their celebration. Who wouldn’t want to be part?
But this was also the Regan era, the years so many in our communities died from lack of care and attention, the most devastating years of the AIDS crisis before funding and any effective treatments. And then Pride became more than a celebration. It became a way to make our voices heard and our bodies seen. Of course, Pride has always been about making our voices seen and our bodies heard; it was always a way to say “we’re here; we’re queer,” a way to claim the streets just for one day, to demonstrate and revel in our own beauty and strength, to honor and celebrate our lives and, perhaps, with our numbers proclaim our value, to demand attention and insist on our right to exist.
Today, in so many LGBTQ Pride Parades, school groups march. And churches. Employees of big-name corporations. Politicians and families. Straight allies. It’s easy to be cynical about it, all the corporate logos and sponsorships, the not-so-subtle competition for our money and loyalty, all the feel-good rainbows everywhere. But in the throng of now thousands who participate, we can see visible changes to society. We can see more inclusion and acceptance. We can see so many fabulous examples of what it means to be LGBTQ.
But what we can’t see are all the young people who still wonder if there is anyone else like them. We can’t see the harassment, the bullying, the terrorizing that continues—and in many instances has increased—lately. In 2018, EdSource reports that “LGBT young people ages 13-15 are 120 % more likely to become homeless,” even in places like San Francisco, a “gay mecca.” In their 2017 National School Climate Survey, GLSEN reports “fewer positive changes” for LGBTQ youth in schools. The statistics are stark: 98.5 % of LGBTQ youth report hearing gay used in a negative way; 56.6 % report hearing negative comments from teachers and staff. Over half of the LGBTQ students surveyed reported feeling unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation and more than three quarters of LGBTQ students surveyed admitted to avoiding school functions because they felt unsafe or uncomfortable.
The story gets even more grave for trans students. While a little more than half of students surveyed reported hearing anti-gay comments from teachers of staff, the number climbs to 71% who report hearing negative comments from teachers or staff about gender identity or gender expression. From 2013 to 2017, GLSEN reports a “steady increase in negative remarks about transgender people.” Perhaps not surprisingly, students in rural areas, especially in the South, reported the most difficulties in schools and had the fewest resources available to them.
And so—if in a small city nearby—as happened recently in Hendersonville, NC—there is a Pride March or celebration, if there is a visible presence of what it might mean to grow up LGBTQ, if young people can see that it can, indeed, ‘get better,’ that is reason enough to get out there and dance on floats, sing all the songs, march with rainbow stickers. As Harvey Milk said, “You’ve got to give them hope.”

Patricia Smith is the author of the novel The Year of Needy Girls (Kaylie Jones Books, 2017), a Lambda Literary Award finalist. Her nonfiction has appeared most recently in the anthologies Older Queer Voices: The Intimacy of Survival and Nine Lives: A Life in Ten Minutes Anthology as well as Parhelion Literary Magazine, where it was nominated for Best of the Net. Her essay, “Border War,” which appeared in Broad Street Magazine, received a Special Mention by Pushcart. A teacher of American literature and Creative Writing at the Appomattox Regional Governor’s School in Petersburg, VA, she lives in Chester, VA with her partner.


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